It’s a courageous act to learn to love life with all the horrible things that happen to good people,” explains Jim Curtis, the author of The Stimulati Experience: 9 Skills for Getting Past Pain, Setbacks, and Trauma to Ignite Health and Happiness (aka the book that will help you help yourself and ultimately transform your life.)In order to change your life you have to change your mindset. It’s scary to know that we have the power to transform our lives by changing the way we think. That kind of power is intimidating, which is why most people live in denial. This kind of thinking is often dismissed as fluff, or cliche advice. It’s easier to blame others, our circumstances, a family member or an illness rather than take control over our own lives.